Here is the question that the women settle very often when they meet a new partner, and whom they are in an approach to have a serious relationship. Can they make love the first night or they have to wait? Let us see now if the time of abstinence has an incidence on the solidity of a relationship.
THE ERROR OF THE TIME OF ABSTINENCE
The first error which all the women make, it is to imagine that the solidity of a relationship will be proportional in the time of abstinence.
If your partner is immature, alcoholic, unstable mentally, or other, which you fucked the 1st night, in one month, or in one year, either your relationship will end in a break, or it will be completely chaotic. Consequently, the criterion of the number of days to make love has no impact on the future solidity of a couple.
ELIMINATE THE MEN WITH TOO BIG DEFECTS
If to be you in the optics to search a stable and long-term relationship, the first thing to do is to search the defects of your pretender. The women focus too often on the qualities of a man, but they are the defects which raise problem in a couple, never the qualities. Consequently, I advise you to eliminate all the pretenders who present too big defects which can damage the stability of a couple.
Here is a list of opposite defects in a stable relationship:
– an alcoholic addiction, in drugs, in games of money, in video games, on the television…
– repeated debts,
– behavioral problems such as the violence, the aggressiveness, the perversity, the domination, the lie, the immaturity, the laziness, the chronic infidelity…
– a spare time to dedicate you insufficient,
– children of several different women,
– a social positioning, a culture or a religion very different from yours.
Once the first selection was ended, there you can focus on the remaining pretenders and their qualities.
Which you made love the first night, in one month, or in one year, only criteria such as the common moral values, the well-balanced behavior of your partner, as well as the compatibility with the in-laws will have an impact on the sustainability and the longevity of your couple. These criteria eliminate many men, but feel reassured, they increase so considerably the chances to build a solid, sustainable and healthy relationship with the remaining men.